Through the years I have played many MMOs and been in many different guilds. There is one very important thing that I learned. I cannot just jump to a guild because my real life best friend has. The two of us have played most of the MMOs together and we usually end up in the same guild. I usually let her pick the guild because she can be rather fussy.
Well, in EQ2 I had found a guild back before the server merges that I liked. I joined without bothering to ask her what she thought. She eventually joined the guild with me. However, she constantly had something bad to say. We eventually became officers in the guild. She still had something to say about how bad the guild was in her opinion. Then the guild leaders needed a break so we took over for awhile. She completely wreaked havoc on the guild at that point.
When the leaders came back, she didn’t want to relinquish power. Even though they were the founders of the guild.
Then my mom passed away. She did her little disappearing trick on me. Every time I need a shoulder to lean on, she disappears. She doesn’t answer the phone, she doesn’t answer email. Nothing. Heck, she won’t even answer the door if you show up at her house. However, she gets pissy if you aren’t there when she needs you. So since I needed a shoulder to cry on, one of the guild leaders leant me his shoulder. Because of this, we became good friends. Well, she got pissed off about that as well. She wanted to quite the guild. I didn’t want to go anywhere since I loved that guild. It was the first guild where I actually felt like I belonged.
Within a few months, she threw a major hissy fit. She blasted the guild leaders in guild wide in-game mail. She blasted them in the forums. She just completely trashed them. Then she left. I stayed in the guild at that point, because I knew that was where I belonged.
She made my life completely horrible. She would send me messages in game about still being in that guild. That she found a better guild that would do better things. Blah, blah, blah. I finally couldn’t take it anymore. So with alot of tears, I finally /quit the guild of my heart.
I went to the guild she was in. They made sure to let me know that they were not needing any conjys, but since they desperately needed a warden they were taking me so my friend would stay. I was miserable from the moment I hit accept. Needless to say, that second guild started falling apart shortly after I joined. They brought in a bunch of new people and there was a brief resurgence in the guild again. However, it ended up falling apart. Now it is mainly used to hold alts that they didn’t want to bring over to the Guk server. The guild hall hadn’t been paid since shortly after The Shadow Odyssey expansion was released. Now for those that don’t play EQ2, there has been another expansion since then.
My friend still insists on staying in this guild. I finally couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t belong there. So I /quit that guild. It took me a few weeks to work up the courage to ask my old guild leader if I could rejoin. He had to talk to the other officers. They had been told what had happened before. They agreed to take me back as long as I understood that my friend wasn’t allowed back with me. I agreed.
I realized that I have to be in the guild that I feel comfortable with. If my friend can’t understand that I want to be in that guild, then well screw her. I also realized through all this that she isn’t truly a friend unless its convenient to her.
I have been back in Essayons for only 2 weeks, but it feels like I never left. The majority of the people are new, but I fit right back in. I feel like I am home again.