OMG! Right now I am so pissed off. I woke up in such a great mood too!
I have 3 sisters. They are NS, DC, and BC. I live with DC.
My oldest sister (NS) is 17 years older then me. I barely even know her. She got married when I was only 1 year old. After she moved out of the house, she didn’t really have anything to do with us. She came back to the family briefly when my dad died. She came back to the family briefly last year when my mom died. Since January, I haven’t seen nor heard from her. The only time she talks to DC is when she needs money. In fact, once my mom died, NS stated that we were no longer a family and we were all going our separate ways.
My second oldest (DC) is 16 years older then me. She has always been there throughout my life. She could be such a pain in the ass, but she cares about me. She treats me like family. After my mom passed away and I had no where to go, she took me in. She makes sure that I get to the doctors when I have appointments and gets the medicines that I need.
The youngest of my sisters (BC) is 12 years older then me. This is the one that I had always felt closest with. We used to have some friends in common. I had a falling out with one of them. Every time I was around BC, she would bitch me out that I need to just be friends with that person because of the problems it causing. I was getting excluded more and more out of BCs life. After my mom’s death, BC agreed with NS’s statement about going our separate ways.
Well, BC called me a few days ago to get my email address because NS wanted to have a baking party and invite me. Of course, NS won’t pick up the phone herself and call me. She has BC do it. So I get a very impersonal email from NS inviting me to a baking party today and to her house on Christmas. Now first off, both BC and NS know that DC works on Saturdays every weekend from 7 am until 7 pm. They invited her too. This made me think that it was a regular baking party where you invite all your friends over, drink wine and bake up a storm.
Today, I get a call from BC asking if I was going. Of course, it wasn’t from NS. I told her that I wasn’t. She said "Oh then I guess its just going to be me and NS. So if only "family" (and I use that term loosely with them) was invited, why not do it on a day when DC could come too. Or were they purposely trying to exclude her? Now that pisses me off.
Then BC proceeds to ask me about Christmas and if I was going. I said no. Now the reason that they asked in the first place was because DC is going with her husband to his family’s house for a few days. I couldn’t get one of those days off from work. So I am staying here by myself. I am not in the Christmas mood because I just keep picturing my mom lying on that bed last year. So I really don’t want to be around anyone celebrating. So anyway, BC then asks if I would rather be alone then with family. I tell her that we weren’t family. Heck, they had even stated that we weren’t. I mean really.
I think that the reason they are even inviting me is nefarious anyway. My mom had never updated her will from when my dad was dying. At that time, NS had come back to the family and had made promises of staying with the family. She had even moved into the house for a short period. Since I was only 16 and my mom knew she needed surgery and didn’t think she would make it through it, she rewrote her will leaving custody of me to NS and leaving everything to her in order to take care of me.
Well, fast forward 20 years, my mom never updated her will. My sister NS had nothing to do with the family all those years. Now she has to sell my mom’s house. After the medical bills, NS is still left owing over $10k. BC and I are always broke. We never have any money. Whereas, DC and her husband have a lot of money. So the first thing that NS did was have her little lackey BC call up DC and tell her about how NS needs money.
Now, DC had already given NS money towards bills. She had also given BC money towards a trip. Once again, they are reaching their hands out. They know that DC has always treated me like I was her own kid. They also know that if they can butter me up a bit, then I can convince DC to give them the money. That is the only reason they are even inviting me. Well, I don’t like it. I don’t want to be used like that. So they can kiss my ass.
From this point on, I have one sister only. DC is my one and only sister.